Here are four main strategies you could try if you are unhappy but not planning to say good bye to your relationship or marriage…..
1. Be brave
Speak up about what is concerning you or lacking in your relationship — regardless of the response that comes up from your partner. If you want something different in your relationship, you need to become courageous and communicate clearly what you want and what you need. Then the possibility for creating something very different and special can exist.
2. Take responsibility
Be open and interested in what you are doing to contribute to the state of your relationship. And be willing to make your own changes. It’s not only about your partner – it’s about you, too.
3. Recognize the difference between feeling sexual and taking action
Sexual feelings, like all our other feelings, are not under our control. Acting on our sexual feelings is totally under our control. Don’t use the “I just couldn’t help myself” line to excuse your behavior because it’s not an excuse. There is no excuse.
If you really are not fulfilled, sexually or otherwise in your relationship and you think that the answer is to cheat, think again. The answer is to delve into yourself and your partner and your relationship to create something new. And if that is not possible then the answer may be to leave the relationship — openly, clearly and courageously.
4. Shoot for the moon
Maybe we’ve taken our relationships for granted or maybe we set our relationship goals too low. What would happen if we shot for the moon when it comes to our intimate relationship and make this partnership our highest priority? Through making our connection our highest priority we can begin to learn so much about our partner and ourselves such that life feels exciting and alive all the time.
With this approach men can look inside their relationship for the answers rather than to the next exciting fling. No more withdrawing and being silent on our relationship and getting grumpy over it. It’s time to make our closest relationship vibrant once again!